Happy Valentine's Day. It has been a good one for me, and for my wife. I had the day off today, so it was great to be able to spend it completely together. We had promised not to get anything for each other for Valentine's Day, because last week we dropped some serious coin on a new washer/dryer combo. So of course I lied and got her a little something anyway.
I would never really consider not giving her something for Valentine's Day. If in almost 25 years of marriage I have learned anything about men and women's relationships, it is this dynamic, wherein men need to feel respected, and women need to be made to feel 'special'. I realize I am speaking in general terms here, and I believe the statement is true most of the time.
We have to face it, as men and women, we are just wired differently.
But if you expect to be made to feel respected without being respectable, you can pretty much forget it, unless your wife is used to being your doormat, which would be unfortunate in the extreme. And, 'gentlemen,' if you have to make yourself look at your wife as a special lady, you have some work to do, (on your own part) and probably possibly some growing up to do.
If you love your wife in a way where you try to put her and her feelings first, Valentine's Day won't be an unusual or terribly exceptional day for you, and you won't find yourself in the drugstore on the other side of town, (because everybody else is sold out of the good cards) trying to find something for her at the last minute. You'll plan ahead, because it means something to you too.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,
Ephesians 5:25 NKJV